"Bo-Peep" is the approach of "Just leave them alone, and they'll come home, wagging their tails behind them."

I always knew, just anecdotally, that it didn't work, but I wasn't entirely sure WHY. Then one day it hit me. From my personal archives:


“Affairs are ADDICTIONS” – and they DON’T “die a natural death!”

I'm sorry, but I think you're being naive. Check out my # of posts -- I've been here six years (counting my prior time as "Chocolateeyes") and have studied literally THOUSANDS of affairs. I've simply never seen the "Little Bo-Peep" approach work. You leave them alone, and they WON'T come home, wagging their tails behind them.

Affairs are ADDICTIONS. Google "PEA brain love lust addiction" and do some research on it. And then try to name for me ONE other type of addiction -- gambling, alcohol, drugs, sexual addiction, ANYTHING -- that dies its own natural death if you leave it alone.

You can't.

In fact, nearly all begin to ESCALATE, as the addict needs a stronger and stronger rush to get their "fix."