I am walking the same tightrope at the moment. My H told me he "was living alone now" last month. I have been a wee bit more available but still no R talk. I do not believe he is done w/ her yet.
I agree your H is still in replay. He is starting to see what he has done. The realization could send him into depression or it could send him into more replay. This could just be normal cycling behavior with in replay.
He will need to go thru OW withdrawal which could take awhile. There may be multiple break-ups. Stay out of this! Otherwise, the bouncing back and forth is bad.
If he brings up R talk, assuring him the door is open, BUT you are moving forward and there will be no R with you as long as OW is in the picture will help him break away. End the talk there. (I have been advised to use the moving forward vs moving on to show the door is still open but I am living my life, not putting it on hold) Stay your course for the moment. Let OW apply all the pressure.
Keep posting!
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