My 17,000th Post

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Wow, just realized that my last post was my 16,999th, and so I figured I'd better post something REALLY MEANINGFUL and INSIGHTFUL for my next one.

So here it is. Call it


"Puppy's Short Version, All-Inclusive Advice" for Waylayed Spouses Who Just Got Bombed"


1. Get proof (of whether or not there's OM/OW). Hint: There almost always is.


2. Do either:

2a. Aggressive affair-busting (see Allen A's posts over in Infidelity)

Allen A's Posts

; or

2b. "Set Them Free" (Robx/Gucci approach)

"Setting Them Free"


Those are the only two things I've seen work. If #1 turns up nothing, then proceed to #2b. And in the meantime, GAL your ass off, and become the better option. Best case, you'll attract them back, and at a minimum you'll become a better person that will be more attractive to SOMEBODY in your next relationship.

Puppy

[cesco]

Nice!!!... I love what you do here..
You , Robx, Gucci have very good views. Its tough to grasp at the start, but eventually if you think it through its the only answer.
Personally 2B is the only option. Its a WIN WIN either way and you move forward as tough as it is..

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Thanks, Cesco.

The thing I like about "2a," is that you can STILL do "2b" afterwards. Doing it the other way around would be problematic, for the obvious reasons ("Why are you fighting for me, when you told me you were setting me free?"). It's also more pro-marriage, I think.

But both work. What DOESN'T work is "Bo-Peep."

Puppy

[PMA_Baby!]

Congrats Puppy!! As always you are a big inspiration to all of us.

Thank you for your words of wisdom. I have definitely learned a lot from your knowledge and expertise.

Cheers to the PUPPY REVOLUTION!!!

[DanF]

Thanks for all you do for everyone Puppy! Your self sacrifice is unbelievable. I hope you take loads of personal satisfaction away, knowing that what you do is so important to others.

Thanks again!

[DumpedforMIL]

What DOESN'T work is "Bo-Peep."

you lost me on that.

but good summary, post king.

btw, i can't find your sitch anywhere.

[PMA_Baby!]

watch where you step. You dont want to get any puppy doo doo on you!!

[hoosiermama]

good dog!!!

[Espr444]

Hey puppy
thanks for all the advice that u give. I think u give people hope when they see none. Talk later

[Ready2Change]

What DOESN'T work is "Bo-Peep."

you lost me on that.

but good summary, post king.

btw, i can't find your sitch anywhere.

I followed the "Bo-Peep" method....IE don't gather any independent intel.

That didn't work....Hind sight is 20/20