Seriously, my cousin, my sister and I used to play "Mod Squad" all the time when we were kids. My cousin and I would pretend to punch the bad guys, and my sister would WHIP HER HAIR around as her "weapon," LOL.
That's right, he did say Saturday. Guess I'll have to bring my laptop to marriage weekend and check in. Although, if it isn't going well it may become a weapon to clobber H over the head with! LOL
Or...I could just WHIP MY HAIR AROUND! HA HA!
I guess that leaves CD as the other guy!
And oh man - you're married to a PT?!!! Geez. I don't guess my Wii Fit workout is really all that tough enough... going to have to up my game.
I may look the part soon. A few more days at 100 degrees in BC; drop the smokes; and a couple more months on the Bowflex, I may not be Lincoln Hayes but I may bear a strong resemblance (attitude, too) to the Old Spice Guy. "Look at him , now back to me"
So, you update, the exposure to aunt and uncle was a bit of a bust.
He said "we will never take sides. You are free to come here as often as you like"
I'm gonna confirm with them today that they understood what I said and what it means.
By not choosing, they have chosen to support the affair and the destruction of our marriage. No choice is still a choice.
I guess all I have left is her mom.
His W intercepted some texts bw OM and his mom. I'll try to post it. It's just her side of the convo. There's something I can use in there but I need expert advice as to how. I'd like to talk to her but I have to be cautious about "harassment" since they apparently got a "he's irrational" opinion last time.
The other piece is I am getting very much settled in my view that the next step is completely letting go. The exposures are not accomplishing much from where I sit.
So I'll just get my Sep Agreement drawn up; get my papers organized and build one from the DIY Kit. Pay a lawyer to review it.
Then bring it to the mediator w/ W and "stick to my guns". If the mediator wants to "negotiate it away", I'll tell him "My W has chosen to have an affair rather than work on our marriage and be responsible to her family. This is my opening minimum position. If she would like to pursue a court battle, I'll adjust the terms accordingly- including custody"
If I am fighting for my family alone and her family chooses to put their heads in the sand, then I should let them ALL go and they can deal with the cleanup, too.
But D and I will move on as best we can. Ostriches are now my least favorite animal.
I don't necessarily disagree with you, but I do think you should give it some internal, set amount of time in YOUR mind. 3 months perhaps?
Some do six, others a year or even two; I personally could have NEVER abided that long. I chose three, and told my wife only that "I hope you'll hurry up and do the right thing, because what's left of my love for you is running out every day you carry on this affair and lie to me and everyone else about it."
I'm sorry about her aunt; it doesn't surprise me. There's a reason why "Blood is thicker than water" has become a phrase in our popular lexicon.
The conversation bw OM and his mom. Her side was all that could be recovered.
Originally Posted By: OM's mom
hi X. i had a long texting session with 'stbxw name' last night. i wondered why you deleted her from messaging. she said that proved you were guilty. phone me if you want to know what i said. i know this stresses you out but if you just explain that you are just friends with (CD's W) and that you want to get on with our life. let her ask you questions then delete her.
Message 16 of 34 X, (OM W) text me. i explained some what happened. where (CD W) stayed and where you stayed (ok resort and friend Z). i told her you went seadooing with (CD W) and her cousin but that you were just friends.
Message 17 of 34
so you actually went to (beach town) to spend time with (CD W). where does (friend Z) come into the picture. its seems like you are moving fairly quickly with a relationship.
you just got separated you need to heal. im happy she makes you happy. you have to learn to manage your life (i explain what i mean when you get home). im on your side. dont forget to read the clean rules for you exit. where are you going tomorrow.
Message 18 of 34
you didnt answer my question. are you on the same flight as (CD W). if her husband is this upset, he will probably be at the airport when you arrive.
Message 24 of 34
i just want you to to slow down until (CD W) gets separated. you dont want to hurt her chances of having custody of her child or make her husband act anymore irrational. mum has had a lot of experience in my life to know that this not the time to persue her. her separation is a lot more complicated than yours. dad wants to know how much gas is in the truck. hes lending (OM bro) the truck for sat and sun.
Message 25 of 34
ooow that sounds bad. what do (CD W's) parents think about you. do they know you are interested in her. do they know her situation with her husband.
keep your distance until this over. if you truly care about each other you can wait. be careful about not losing your cool at work tomorrow our you might be changing jobs. you need to finish school before you make any moves.
Opinions, perspectives and suggestions are appreciated as always.
Well, I guess that's not all that surprising since it is HER family. You just don't know what all she might've told them in order to protect her image. Eventually, due to her behavior, they will figure it out though.
Did you give them any of Allen's stuff to look over - about supporting the M rather than the A and how it will affect your daughter? Just curious.
Did you get the Dobson book yet? Have you started reading it?
