Soleil - thanks for the post on my thred. I'm trying... that's all I can say but I seem to be stuck in limbo too. The thing is, I left my family, friends, job, home to following him out of state for his job because he put a ring on my finger and promised me forever. Now, I do have friends here now, but for some reason, I don't think I should be the one to move out. The house is mostly mine and I did f@#% up our life. He's keeping the affair on the DL so he doesn't have friends to go to. When the house sells or I get a job back home where I'm from (I want to be near my family) then I'll be out of the house. I did ask him to move out last week so we'll see what happens when he gets back from his mini-vaca with the OW.

He's never mean to me. He's never said that any of this was my fault. in fact, he says that I'm wonderful and he doesn't deserve me. He loves me and all he wants for me is to be happy. As for his affair, I can have the proof in my hand waving it in his face and he'll deny that it's still happening. This makes me think that I'm crazy! I know... actions, not words.

As for you, I admire your strength to push through all this. I agree with you that getting a D is not the way to make things better. My H says that maybe we'll be together again in the future. Keep up the good work. Sounds to me like you're headed in the right direction! I'll try to catch up!


When you are happy as an individual, you are in a better position to determine whether a partner enhances your happy life or weighs it down.