You two have a unique arrangement!!! CL, just tell you wife that you failed Mind Reading 101. Since she is unemployed why doesn't she "step up" and do more to meet her own expectations??? I just feel you are the one always bending for her.
I was just talking to my ex yesterday and we talked about my poor housekeeping skills. He now has a girlfriend who keeps her house like a museum. He doesn't like that as much as he thought he would. Life is strange! Grass is not greener on the other side.