I would like to suggest that you "Be the best dad ever" and then "Mr single".
Live like today may be the last day you have with your kids. What choice would you make? Going out with buddies or reading a book to them at bed time.....After they go to sleep, go out for a bit....
The best thing I did was get a week on/week off parenting agreement with a mid week dinner visit. My relationship with my kids is what is important. Everything is in balance. My free time is in balance with my parenting time. I have family weekends and single guy weekends.....
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
