One thing that I've noticed with my W is that taking and owning responsibility for her actions is hard. Yesterday I mentioned that "when you leave" and she got upset at the word leave and leaving. Felt like I was trying to blame her for everything. I said no, there's no blame, and I think you're right that this isn't working. But she's very touchy about the blame thing. Guilt at what she's doing to me, to our daughters, everything.
