MLC likely...BPD possible...divorce pending

[ericmsant2]

Lola

DID you put other before yourself?
not everyone...but definitely the men I dated and the one I married.

I wonder why? Maybe a lack of self worth and lack of self?

I don’t think I really understood the importance of establishing boundaries

Do you understand now because it is the here and now that really matters?

it looks like with NPD- the chance for change is extremely low for some reason

Low BUT not impossible and based on your response to SA it looks like you are not really sure. Maybe he is just a selfish sob (sorry).
Who knows? Either way does it really matter to YOU if YOU are working on YOU (please note the lack of a “HE” or HIM).

Lola – I’ll say the same thing that I said to lala (damn lola…lala….you ladies are killing me LOL). I am no expert but it seems like you lacked a sense of self in your life. Maybe it had to do with your childhood, with your Dad (BTW how is he?) – I am not sure. Like I said earlier, does it matter right now. Your future is in front of you. The opportunity to really define yourself is in front of you. IMO – you need to do this for you right now. You need to live for YOU and YOU alone.

Maybe if you really stop thinking about everything that could be wrong with him you can really dig into what caused some of your behavior. Just saying.

BTW – are you working with your IC on some of the reason why you allowed this?

Keep digging girl…It will come lola…it will come.

Eric