Okay, I had a pretty good day yesterday, went out and did errands and lunch with H and son. Forgot all about affair and lies, till the afternoon. H is working graveyard shift and called to say promotion he has hoping for didn't come through. This would have brought him to the field office here in town. We were both hoping this would happen,(OW works in the same office but different building.)so he could get away from there.
H was very upset because he's been trying to get at least closer to home and also because this is his second time on the list and the current list is going to run out at the end of the year. There will only be a couple of more offers coming out before then. It brought all my fears and pain about the affair/OW back. Told him want him to put in for a transfer here and surrounding towns. IF there is any openings the soonest it would happen is not till November. This would mean he would be low man on the totem pole and not get the shifts and days off he wants. So, while I'm glad I made my feelings and concerns know and asserted myself and told him what I want I'm feeling a little guilty. He also seemed a little upset about it, not that it would take him away from the OW, he has promised that is over and is totally committed to me and our marriage but because his stupid mistake has caused all this mess.
Did I do the right thing? I just can't stand it every time he leaves for work knowing SHE'S there.
