Quote: Well, I hope I wasn't too late in trying to formulate my additional 2 cents .
'til later, KAW
never too late...
however...h is a conflict avoider...doesn't confront...doesn't argue..doesn't solve..is content to just say "that's just the way they are" or "that's just the way I am" or "that's just the way it is"
that's a fine and dandy way to live if you want to live alone in a cave and only intereact with people on a basic level..but not if you actually want to have personal relationships with people where you discuss more than just football, weather and current events.
So then either the way I look at h as a conflict/intimacy avoider and nothing I do will ever change that OR I am a basket case and just can't get through to h.
there was a time when I started to just believe "that's just the way he is" as it seemed even his own family saw him that way....
BUT
how can it be so?
he did have some kind of intimate r with ow, I don't think a woman with a terminal illness would leave her husband and father of her two young boys for a man who wasn't intimate with her...after all her complaint of her h was that 1. he didn't love her and 2. he wasn't emotionally available.
ugh!
thanks to the rest of you for posting. I'm just tired of it.
