What do you mean by "got a little frisky"? Does foreplay amount to foreplay for YOU and not her? Was the sex in your mind already pretty much all about you or was your first thought seducing her to make her feel good?
Next time sex is on the table, take up the offer, and make sure she has an orgasm both before and after intercourse.
A woman who hasn't had a rewarding sex life has been conditioned not to get sexually stimulated. This could be what is going on with your W. So, just do it, with a beginner's mind, and make sure she O's before and after. Sex toys recommended.
Women who enjoy sex and are with someone they are in love with want sex.
Once a woman gives up on the possibility of enjoying sex with a particular partner, unfortunately as a practical matter the partner is going to have to show the woman that he can give her good orgasms. This will mean trying something new.
