I'm going to ask a question of our veteran DBers to clarify some things you may be thinking about and out of my own curiosity.
Is it wise to affair bust a MLCer the way you might try it on a WAS? Why or why not?
I'm talking affair busting the way it is done on the Infidelity board. I am NOT trying to stir anything up, just trying to clear some things up and help ST make a more informed choice.
SA,
You know, I do not know any LBSer who HASN'T confronted their spouse when there has been an affair.
Strangley...here in MLC I am not sure of many (who call MLC home) who recommend doing it.
I believe that many who have, thought they could have done it better.
This is a hard choice...here is the possibility of giving out some REALLY BAD advice, being responsible for giving you advice that WILL affect your realtionship, your marrige, some could argue that all they are doing is giving you advice...and that is true, just as the dealer is only selling you product not making you use it. Apples and hand gernades...but still...a truth to that as well.
Would I be hypocritical in saying even though I DID expose the affair, that I do not recommend it?
Would it be hypocritical of me to suggest that drinking a whole bottle of rum in one evening is a bad idea even though I did it once?
Exposing the affair, exposing in so much that you know about it? I do not think that is a bad idea. Telling the whole world? I think is a horrible idea with an MLCer. If they come out they have so MUCH damage they have to fix, relationships with family and friends AND you, why make that harder for them down the road?
Some people are going to know...but I do not think you shoul dbe hiring ad space or informing the kids that mom is blowing some guy on friday nigths you know?
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
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