Steady, you can imagine it, in one situation, the WAS is a man, the other situation the WAS is a woman, both following their feelings.
Let them go, that's all you can do.
You're right robx, I can imagine it. I meant it more in a vein of me not fathoming how someone can just walk away from a W with a newborn baby. That's beyond me.
There are responsibilities in life that trump how we feel. There were times I didn't feel like waking up with my kids, there were times I didn't feel like changing a diaper, etc... It's called being responsible.
I'm also with you on the total disrespect and disdain I have for a person who can do what he's doing.
And yes, the best thing is to let go of them. There is no convincing to be had. Why would we want to be with someone we have to convince to be with us. I posted recently of an experience I had of exactly that. If you manage to pull it off, you sit there thinking 'This is no good. WTF am I doing here?"
remember we're applying logic to a situation, logic that says a person should have the discipline to do what's right and take care of their responsibilities. But these WAS's are in love with their feelings, so they throw all that logic, responsibility and discipline to the wind and just follow those feelings wherever they may lead:
incredible reward or ultimate letdown.
As for piano's sitch, her hubby leaving just after they have a baby a few months ago, my "logic" on that situation is simple, the ultimate victim in that situation is the children. Children never have a say, they don't choose their parents, they don't choose their family life, their living environment, they don't choose to be born at all. People need to be damn sure before they have kids that they're committed to the process before they insert "point A" into "slot B", I'd go so far as to make it a criminal offense to abandon a mom and a newborn. Heck I'm not even talking marriage anymore, I think people should probably get licenses to procreate, it's too easy for people to have sex, have kids and then make a mess of those kids and wipe their hands & walk away when the going gets tough and to me, that's just bull$hit, again that's how I feel on this topic, that's my logic on this issue.
