Defriending the OM and complete transparency would be a good start.
Yes, she will have to defriend OM. That's a no brainer. Is my W in denial that having OM on her friend list wasn't a detriment to our possible reconciliation? Wow!
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You know what is hostile to you, your M and your family? Her keeping ties with OM. Do not let her turn this on you. This has put your M on the rocks.
Exactly. To say our M is on the rocks is an understatement!
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Right now it sounds not so good for you two, and she needs to step up to put things right. Tell her.
I know what you are going though all too well, and I wonder if this half-hearted reconcillation attempt that my STBXW is making is just about keeping me from moving on until she can find somebody else or something.
I don't think my W is keeping me around while she looks for something else. Now that OM is (presumably) out of the picture, and she's off the A drug, she's feeling the effects of her decisions (shared time with kids, missing me, no money, no life, etc). She's being honest. Sunday she said "residual feelings" for OM are in the way of her committing to our reconciliation. Can't fault her for her honesty, but I also don't need to hang around and embrace her half hearted attempts at fixing things.
I'm still somewhat optimistic, but it's going to be a long road.
