By saying this you left the door open a little bit. If a man is interested he's going to step right through it.
so next time, i should just be blunt and slam the door shut?
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This is the thing. You should be straight and honest and should have told him that. It's direct, it's the truth, it's genuinely you. We get so hung up about worrying about someone else's feeling that we keep ourselves from being authentic. It's being authentic that leads us to the best places. The other people are adults, they are responsible for how they handle your honesty.
i did get hung up on his feelings and i didn't want to be mean. he asked me what i thought of him and whether he was the man i envisioned in my dreams (here's the puke bucket). i paused for the longest time. i didn't know how to put it. so i said no, you're a lot broader than i thought. i really did not have any good words for him.
if you want me to be my authentic self .. this is what i really thought. he basically made himself sound better than he really was in person. he kept saying that his body was a temple. uh .. his body was stocky .. looked like he was on 'roids but started to let himself go. he looked like he was 10 yrs older than he really was but dressed like a teenager, had the manners of a cow, and doused himself in half a bottle of cologne. if you are interested in a woman and you want to impress her, you have to dress to impress. a t-shirt, jeans, and sneakers is not dressing to impress. also, you ask her about her. i asked him questions but he didn't ask me anything. so no, i don't just go by physical appearance. i evaluate the entire person as a whole, and buddy, that was not impressive.
maybe it's from the db-ing but i don't go out looking like a rag. i do my hair, make up, clothes, a great pair of shoes and handbag. i also don't check my manners or intelligence at the door. when i make that kind of effort, the person sitting across from me had better be making the same kind of effort. i don't think i'm asking for much. don't take this as me being cocky. it's knowing what you want and not settling for less.
is that what you mean by being honest and my authentic self?
