It's an indicator of immaturity is all... Resolving conflicts between you and someone else is stressful. She gets uncomfortable and panics. She then resorts to defensiveness to avoid the uncomfortable situation... particularly by mind reading. This allows her to
a. Avoid hearing what you have to say b. Control the conversation c. End the conversation faster
It's an attempt to avoid the problem rather than muscling through it to solve it... I have done the same thing myself...
YOu can either walk away when she dos that OR
Cut her off and tell her NO, you wont' accept that its not constructive...
tell her she can talk if she can focus on FACTS... Once she veers from teh facts then cut her off right away.
OR you can make the problem more prominent by asking HER in ADVANCE "what am I thinking now?"
"What am I thinking NOW?"
"What do I want to say NOW?"
It might get the point across too... though its more childish than cutting her off and getting her to focus on teh facts I think... It MAY be the only way to get her to understand what she's doing...
