Sorry PDT, had a weak moment. We had another session today and she was still locked into "It's over, no need to work on it", even through discussion with the C she continued to re-wrtie how things happened and guess who got the credit.
During the talk I realized the she has always tried to control our lives and that she would not let me into her life. She would be vague about everything even something as simple as "how was your day" and when I would try to ask about it she would get defensive and push me away.
I told her that I had decided that she was right about our marriage not being worth saving and that I needed to focus on myself and finding someone that will love me for who I am, respect me, and want me in her life.
Her only reaction was "I'm happy for him" when asked how that made her feel.
She gone and I have accepted that, time to move on. I am thinking about keeping the house. You were all right in that I was just trying to keep things "nice" when she said she wanted it. She will be pissed but then again I don't really want the divorce and she does not care about that.
