I get many GREAT and HELPFUL people who I have more thanks for than they can know trying to help me here and saying do what I want to do-what's good for me...Problem is I have no damn clue what that is right now.
I'll tell you what those GREAT and HELPFUL people have told me, are telling me. If you have doubt, if you are unsure of what to do ... do nothing. Sometimes doing nothing is the best something to do. Be STILL. Slow down.
Why does you not filing mean things will get messy? No one is telling you to fight her on it, if it's what she really wants and she files and forces the issue then you will have to decide how to handle it.
Make her own her choices, her decisions - by your actions, not with words. NO WORDS.
If you do NOT want a divorce then don't file. Simple really. It's not a tactic if it's your truth. Doing something contrary to your truth will definitely come across as confrontational.
If she wants one, she can file for it. And if you truly want to love her unconditionally then you will need to respect her choices.
(Now of course the exception is that you have to protect yourself financially and legally so I'm not saying you shouldn't get advice).
Breathe. SLOW DOWN. Be still. Listen. Watch.
Peace PEI
Last edited by PEImom_of_3; 07/27/1003:03 PM. Reason: for clarity
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
