I want to fight her at every turn and make her journey down this path as slow and worrisome as possible.
In your wife's shoes, I'd sure be re-thinking why I wanted to leave if you did this. ; )
The right thing to do in MLC is often to STFU. Google it if you have to.
Look until your emotion isn't written all over your face or...in this case your writing, you're best to stay away from R talks. Until YOU control your emotion and reaction, and not the other way around...the best advice I can give you is not to engage her. You can only control yourself...and right now you need to learn HOW to control yourself.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK