Ok after a couple of days of intel I have nothing to indicate that there is an A going on. Was suspicious at first and actually heard one of the conversations with the suspected OM and I now think it was nothing and he is just a friend ( Right now anyway )

One thing I would like some advice on is living together or separately. We are currently living together and sleeping in the same bed. It is not uncomfortable but I am just wondering if it is easier to DB together or apart.

A couple of times we have argued over various issues and she has threatened to force the sale of our house and move out.

The first time i asked her to reconsider and she did but that definitely empowered her a bit more to start being disrespectful towards me.

I quickly learned and the next two times she did it I just told her that if that is what she wants or needs to do then i wont stand in her way. I even reminded her to start the paperwork the next day when she didn't mention it again.

Also she is being a bit curious about whats going on in my life and does ask me where I'm going and what I'm up to. She has also started telling me what she is up to.

I am hoping this is a result of the LRT and is pretty much following the script Michele laid out in her blog. How long can this phase last. How long can you live in limbo.

Also as we have one S each from previous M. I have said to her that I will not always be available to watch her S when she works ( Shifts ). I hate doing this as it kind of splits the family but I want her to know what it will be like if we split and also to realize some of the side benefits of being a couple.

One thing I cant really understand is how it is possible to reconnect after months of coldness. The atmosphere in the house is now much better ( in fact Comfortable ) but we still have that thing where if we brush by each other she automatically pulls back. Don't know how we will get over this.

We have set a time to talk about her conflict with my S and I am going to suggest we get outside help on this. There is plenty of stuff available on the problems of blended families and ours seems pretty typical except she has blown it out of all proportion and caused a huge family destroying rift. Again i think there is more to it than this but she is not saying anything. It will be a challenge to discuss the conflict with S without discussing R.

My patience is getting better as I see little signs of progress but sometimes I just think screw her and i should just separate and get on with my life without her and not look back.