MLC spouse projecting their negativity onto the BS

[ericmsant2]

Mental

I wanted to respond to the question you have about trying to love someone when they [b]appear[/quote] not to love you back.
Dude – my W was the epitome of cold and distant for a long time. IMO they do this because they do now want to give YOU a false sense of hope. In their minds they are done. So how can you love someone that acts and feels this way towards you?
You accept the fact that right now she is sick and in some serious pain, that may not be evident to YOU. Right now and maybe for a very long time she is running from her own demons. Right now her actions REFLECT her PAIN. Right now she is not the same person. So….

Remember what you two had. You remember the good times. You remember the laughter. You remember the person that she was. You accept that her choices are hers. That SHE must do this for herself. She MUST do this to find what she is looking for. You accept that it is what it is and then you let completely go. You really detach. You deal with YOUR pain and YOUR hurt.

Once you do this…

Once you gain this understanding you will feel a wave of compassion that falls over you. All of sudden you realize where she is, what she is probably going thru and you hurt. You also begin to truly love her. You love her so much that you have let her go.

It happens Mental…It just happens…IMO…it only happens when you let go.

God Bless,
Eric