My biggest piece of advice? Allow yourself a set amount of time to think on/grieve for W each day. You have to go through that. However, once that timer is up, you FORCE your mind into some other thought process: read a book, cook something that requires concentrating on a recipe, try a new task... whatever gets your mind on something else.
This is awesome advice, Sunny. For me, it was that I still had horrible days/nights, crying jags, etc., but they came fewer and further between. IOW, I went from my first week of wallowing, to two bad days/1 good day, then pretty soon that was reversed to two GOOD days/1 bad day, and then eventually I only had a really bad day about once every two weeks or so.
Also, once I had all of the evidence I REALLY needed, I adjusted how often I looked at/listened to my intel. From several times per day to 1x/week.
For me, it was that I still had horrible days/nights, crying jags, etc., but they came fewer and further between. IOW, I went from my first week of wallowing, to two bad days/1 good day, then pretty soon that was reversed to two GOOD days/1 bad day, and then eventually I only had a really bad day about once every two weeks or so.
