My H jumps at the chance to watch the kids but is more hesitant to make time for just the 2 of us. I would give him a chance and try again asking.
Quote: what do I want?
some designated me time while the sun is still up. a designated "date" night with h. designated or more regular family time. to know what h's schedule is other than that he works every day..I mean his telling me he'd be home early sat left me thinking he'd be home by 1 not 4. and damn it I want my h to want me!! more often
A few months ago when H and I had one of our R talks we both said that if H was to return it would have to be a 100% commitment, no running away again. Well, the other night when we had a R talk I told H that I thought we both needed to see what M would be like again. When he was ready that maybe we could do a "trial" no strings attatched. H would come home and we would take one day at a time. No demands and no expectations. No designated us times, etc...
Well you know what happened. A day or 2 later, H tells me that what I had said made sense and that he was feeling better and thinking that things might be back to normal by xmas.
I know my H does not like to plan things, he is very spontaneous and rules push him away.
My reason for telling you this is that I think what you want is valid for sure, I just think you need to approach it differently. Be spontaneous, don't assume, tell H you are doing xyz and does he want to join you....
