[Truegritter]

Was probably a mistake to confront based on no actual, specific knowledge,

She gave you specific knowledge.

Contact is contact.

She is life boating.

You know not really helping you bail the ship out of trouble but watching you do all the work with one foot in the life boat...

Listen man I am not trying to throw a pebble in your shoe.

You have been trying here the best way you know how and

How does it feel to know that all the effort you have been putting in ...

and she is not helping you with the heavy lifting?

How long is this going to go on before you become resentful?

You set a boundary of no contact or FB right?

What are the consequences to her for not respecting that boundary?

Don't sacrifice yourself to the M.

Out of fear (nod Pup).

Take care of YOU.

First.

That is not selfish.

Do you want to be defined by, controlled by, the choices your W makes?

What do you want in a M?

What kind of man do you aspire to be?

What values do you hold in your core?

How are you letting those be compromised?

You have choices.

Your W is making her own and you have no control over them.

YOU only control how YOU react to them.

And therin lies your work my friend.