Hi Pin- wow, there are some similarities in our sitches. I just read through your sitch from the beginning and have some random comments:
that book- Too Good to leave, too bad to stay? Just saying for other people out there, I think is kind of dangerous. Basing your decision to save or end an R on a single question is scary stuff. A friend recommended it to me, but I had to put it aside.
The comments like "I know you don't want me around" could've come out of my H's mouth. He'll say things like: "I know you hate me, but..." What? He's the one who wants a D! The other day, I said in a very matter of fact way: "yep, I do hate you, but I can still...." The passive-aggressives with lots of anger and inadequacy issues- your W and my H sound similar and they constantly want validation, even as they're leaving us!
And I got the "I can't trust you" speech too, many times. I guess these are the hallmarks of the WASs- blame the LBS b/c it's too hard to admit you're breaking up your marriage, you don't want to own your own crap, etc.
I second the things several have said- do not help her figure out her finances- She is a big girl enough to leave you, she is big girl enough to figure out how to support herself. But I understand being worried about your kids- that's tough, but she could always find a female roommate or something- there are options other than being destitute. She may have to take on a 2nd job, like many here have done.
You need to have more fun, real fun. What else do you like to do besides write? It sounds like some of your GAL experiences are kind of empty- what would you really like to do? Does your church have any kind of social group? Do you have other interests you'd like to try out?
I'm puzzled why you're getting rid of your dog at this point? I have 2 myself and am very torn about trying to find a place that takes dogs (hard, one is a GR, both are over 35 lbs) or let H have them with visits. But I can't imagine giving one away Others here will say that you need to simplify and animals complicate things, but they also lift you up when you're down and if you will be without your D's half the week, the company might be good. And as you know, dogs are a great way to strike up a conversation and meet others.
Well, too much typing for tonight- you're on the right track and have some real vets weighing in here- not everyone is so lucky!
Others here will say that you need to simplify and animals complicate things, but they also lift you up when you're down and if you will be without your D's half the week, the company might be good. And as you know, dogs are a great way to strike up a conversation and meet others.
