I just returned from a year long deployment in Iraq. While I was "home" on leave in Feb my wife of 10 years told me she didn't want to be married to me anymore. Suffice to say I returned to theatre devastated. It was the hardest struggle of my life to not return in a body bag, but I did it with counseling and meds. She also refused to talk about why she wanted out. She was "all worn out" and "had nothing to say".
The reason for "home" is that we left no residence. I went to war and she went to live with family in Canada(at my suggestion) because I thought she and the kids would be safer.
I acknowledge we were having problems but I never knew how miserable she apparently was. I got off the plane 5 days ago and she+kids were there(a surprise). She wasn't wearing her wedding ring and has been "dating". She and the kids have established themselves in the small town in Canada where she's from and don't want to return to the states. She wants me to move there so I can be close to the kids but says there's "no chance" of us reconciling. Did I miss something? I was married one moment and fighting to stay in the lives of my children the next. I feel like I returned from Mars to find my home planet gone. Welcome home?????
