Quote: I know you have probably covered this before, but have you actually sat down with H and told him exactly what you have told us here? In a loving way, of course (bite tongue if necessary). men are oblivious and you have to sometimes spell it out exactly for them. Explain to him that you may go crazy if things don't change?
a yup!
big part of why I believe or r got to where it was, that and well perhaps the fact that we aren't as compatable as we can pretend to be.
h just doesn't get it.
just last night..in the am he told me he'd be home early from work..but didn't arive til 4...I let him know before he was home that I'd like to go out and start some christmas shopping since when I tried earlier in the day both kids fell asleep in the car not allowing me to go anywhere..then of course the whining just had me quit after they finally woke and we went to one store (and yes I do give the little one naps at home) it was finally just after 6 when I had cleaned up dinner and was getting ready to leave..when h said with a slight attitude..your going now? as if I was supposed to stay and put dd to bed first...wich of course was the way it was before she was born..if I wanted to go to the store at night I'd have to (or be asked to) put son to bed first.
that all changed after ow and seperation..I left him alone with the kids after about a month of his being gone and wanting a d...he learned then what my life is like and kept allowing me the free time when he did come home for a while..now it seems he's back to being the way he was.
