bro I know this is scary, new, uncertain, but how many choices do you have? how long have you been dealing with this BS?
Is she committed to you and your family? Never mind the effects you, how about the kids? She's having an affair with some guy? Or she's interested enough in some guy that she has given you the boot and doesn't care enough to work on the marriage?
You're settling for this?
Again, your choice on this, she either commits to working 110% wholeheartedly on the marriage through counseling and whatever is required or she has to go, which means she has to move out, find a new place to live because you can't live with a wife who is chasing some other guy.
Based on what you've told us so far with recent interactions with her, she doesn't want to be with you, that's her mindset, those are her feelings, agree with them, let her go, have her move out, file for D and let her deal with the reality of her situation.
