It is all about them isn't it? When I was talking to my WAW everything was how she felt, what about the way you are making me and the kids feel, guess that wasn't nearly as important.
After another late night of reading, it seemed to just settle over me this morning while I was driving. I kept telling myself I should let her go and today I "felt" I am ready to. Do I still love her, yes, more than anything, do I want her back, I can't really say right now. I don't know how I could forgive someone willingly hurting the person they are supposed to love the way she has been and not care about how it impacts the family.
Yes you're right, with regards to your WAW, everything is about how she feels, she is a feeling person, she is in love with those feelings, she's guided by those feelings, you're against her and her feelings so she's against you.
I'm not saying it's right or wrong, I'm saying that's just how it is.
Arguing with your WAW and telling her "what about me? what about the kids?" just comes off as weak and needy and boy that always works to bring back a wayward spouse ;-)
Let her go, she wants out of the relationship so badly, agree with her, show her the door, don't be a prick or an a$$hole but you've had your "awakening" too, you feel differently now as well, you're not sure how you feel about her and maybe this is the best thing for you too, you can now find someone who values you and the relationship they can have with you, it's her loss, not yours.
