I had a rough day. I have to say I'm over this sh*t...really. I think I'm doing fine and then bam - like getting punched in the stomach.
My S15 tells me - hey mom do you know dad said, "you know his friend" (gf) helped him pick out my cell phone?...in front of those people he lives with and it was so awkward!" I was livid...thinking what is wrong with this man does he have any sense? My older son says, "dad's a fag!" what are we supposed to do?
I see their frustration as he makes passive aggressive remarks to them and I know it hurts them dearly. They don't want to see him and I forced them to go see him this last time. Maybe I won't be forcing them again.
I feel bad enough knowing my former husband betrayed me...but the kids? I can't handle that part. There is no reason on earth he should be telling them about his whorefriend. They are not ready for that.
I don't wish this crap on my worst enemy.
Luv
Luv you can't control him, if he wants to live his life as an a$$hole, you must respect his wishes.
However if it makes your kids uncomfortable to visit him, document it, and when he asks to be with them, tell him they're uncomfortable about the stuff that happens when they're with him. You won't keep the kids away from him but you won't force them to visit him if he's going to make them uncomfortable.
