Lola, SO true everything he has said....I will offer this also as it gave me some insight to the R between a man and a woman. PEI rcomended this book so kudos to her. (check is in the mail)
"How to improve your marriage without talking about it" was very eye opening t me. It really explains the fear and shame we experience as adults and addresses the childhood years also.
Cheers
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Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.