Hi Sunny, I am sort of in your sitch--have an H that just refuses to work on the M. Not involved in an A, as far as I can tell, but does use porn and neglects me.
I went to a C, then we both went for about 6 sessions, then he quit and has been hostile and disrespectful for months (since Nov). I tried to be nice--tried to be the better person, tried to make the M a better option. Did all the DB stuff (and I did it 6 years ago--he was going to walk out then but I DB'd him back).
He has just gotten worse--more and more disrespectful. He just wants "out" and refuses to do anything. The C told us we were wasting our time.
I am no longer this person's friend. In fact, I want him to really feel the consequences of being such a jerk--and want him out. No, there is no affair that I can tell (and I check all the time--he is around here 24/7 pretty much) but so what?? His behaviour is still wretched and why am I trying to be this wretched person's friend?? What is that teaching my S14??
I am over here looking for the thread that give creative ways to get your S to leave. We have another home that we own and he can go to and he STILL refuses to leave!! I thought without proof of an affair, is this the right thing to do?? But I read Dr. Dobson's book and it has made me think that it doesn't matter--this is someone who is emotionally being abusive and we are still trying to be friends with this person?
I'm not feeling a bit guilty--this is wrong behaviour from a person that made promises to love, honor, cherish and all that--this has been going on for 8 months and it's time to say adios!
