Pull a complete 180 on him. The next time you see him be pleasant. You do not have to be over the top. Absolutely NO R talks. In fact can you arrange to go out and do something for yourself and give him time alone with the kids?
Take what your H has said to you that stings and work on that in yourself, for yourself. This is not a trick to get H back but a chance to work on yourself.
You can not fix your H nor control him so do not even try. If you do your H may view it as you trying to control him and use it to justify what he's doing.
I would take a close look at his statement that he has to do this to stop your crap. STOP whatever it is he's talking about. Actions speak louder than words. It's possible that if you work on that in yourself he may come to the conclusion that he doesn't have to file to get it to stop.
Make sure any changes you make are for you or they will not be permanent.
Is your H still spewing at you?
2 this is not an easy or fast journey for your H or yourself.
