I really respect and for the most part agree with everything that you said. Do I believe that my WH is hurting worse than I am. No. He's too wrapped up and self centered to hurt. Hurt involves caring for other people, and I don't think at this moment he cares for anyone but himself.
I waffle from time to time, wondering if I'm doing the right thing or putting off the inevitable. I look back at my marriage of 20 years and know now, as our children have told me, that I bent over backwards for him. Going slow is not my nature. I'm an action figure. Not jumping off cliffs or anything but definitely jumping in and getting done what needs to be done asap.
I guess I'm rambling, but I really took to heart many of the points that you made, about standing, about unconditional love, about hurt. Great job!
