Either that or he doesn't know how much impact the road he's on will have to his military career...
SD, you have some choices to make...
but I usually reccomend you go with the hardball approach of exposing and waiting it out...
The military owns your husband right now, and any of his misbehaviour...
I think he's banking on you NOT bringing the authorities involved here...
He will be angry with you that you did it but you can look at it this way :
a. If you don't expose the affair has a significant chance of continuing... Some affairs on this board have run over 3+ years... With little sign of letting up b. If you don't expose he may end up filing anyways... And you will be in the same spot as you fear you may be by exposing - him filing for divorce c. If you DO expose, it will have a strong chance of ending the affair d. If you DO expose it will open up a chance to work with a family therapist.. I assume that's going to be what the military would most approve of him doing e. If you DO expose he will be furuious you cut off the source of his addiction - but I have never met an alcoholic yet who didn't rage when you locked the liquor cabinet on them
It looks like the military will protect you from him doing anything aggressive... You can always call JAG and research all of that...
My advice is to expose the affair NOW while he's overseas.. it will give him three months to cool off...
We can draft a letter with you on the forum here inviting him to formally end the affair and attend family therapy when he gets back... you can even send a copy of it to any of the military authorities that are concerned.. they may go easy on him if he agrees to follow your terms in the letter
