My Wife is Having an Affair with Co-Worker

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I am trying to figure out how to balance saving my marriage, and not losing my divorce. It is very difficult to keep the middle ground. I do not forsee reconciliation in the future if the D goes my way at the hearings. I believe that she will hate me forever. I have to risk this or lose my kids.

I still love my W and want my marriage, but I do not see the alternatives recently.