Everyone is different, though we share some commonalities.
And even though we share some commonalities we are all unique butterflies...or snowflakes...
Look PEI,
Simply, you right, I look at your time here, a few months and I see you re-evaluating your last 15 years of marriage...not really within the last 3 months but the last month, and I wonder as many others have and are, why or what happened in the last month to make you...
See your marriage in a different light, usually...it is a justification. Aseops Fable of sour grapes. The fox unable to reach the grapes proclaims them sour.
I really do not know you, I will agree that everyone is different, everyone has a different time line and some can do this forever, and do so for the wrong reasons.
Just as not everyone in here has a spouse who is in MLC, MLC is the last stop to cling to hope in some cases...and fukc anyone who takes that hope away from someone who wants to hope. How dare you? Seriosuly, go kick a puppy on your way to work instead. No not Puppy.
I do not want you to make a choice down the road that you will regret. There is a ton of regret here, hell not just in MLC but all over about bad decisions and poor thinking and hurt. A sharp choice in the hands of a vulnerable person hurts just as much as a sharp choice in a mean person hands...intentions aside tears still flow.
Time is on your side.
Go slow.
I do like that you are not closing doors. I do worry about the 15 years and...you are not the only LBS to think they removed rose colored glasses when looking at their old marriage and proclaiming it suckville or...lacking.
Are they in pain?
MLC most of them are. Not all, not all the time, not everyone is the same.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
