As I'm reading through your thread and others on this site, I'm struck by how many people just "check out" of their marriage and fully expect the partner to pick up the slack of the household and kids, including my own WH.
And the job thing kills me, as my WH has brought that up a few times as well. As his life changed very little after we had kids, he has NO clue what's involved in actually being a parent. It's easy for them to say, "Go get a job." But when you ask them to do laundry, fix dinner, get groceries, or run kids somewhere to help out, they act totally put upon.
Allen's right - total fantasy. Your WH expects his life to go on unchanged, except for the increase in your income. Clueless!
