A new day ... or something equally cliche ....

[LanceSijan]

Since you are willing to do the work, I am going to reccomend a book that I just finished reading from the resources:

The Pain Behind The Mask: Overcoming Masculine Depression by John Lynch, Christopher T. Kilmarting.

Read this book and then come back and tell me your WH has no traits from the book. Tell me he is not in any pain.

Where are you getting the information about your WH from?
Who is telling you that he is happy?
I hope you are not getting this from him.

Know he is in far more pain? Even in MLC, and not all wayward spouses are IMO, I'm not sure I always believe this. Let's just say we'll agree to disagree on this, as I know this could turn into quite a debate.

You are absolutely correct that you could turn that into a great debate. I can not agree with you and this is where I find fault with your thinking.
You have said that you have done the work.
What proves this?
Did you read any books?
Is it written in the MLC resources?
Have you read all of those?

I don't really care whether you choose to stand or not.
That is your choice.
I would not impose what I think on you, thats silly.

I think that you have begun to do the work,
but IMHO none of us will ever be done doing the work.
That is a lifetime event.