I picked her up from the hospital and husband signed her over to me said he is done. What am I doing. I think that I am being nice. I love her still. I know that I cant cure her. she has agreed to go to detox and rehab Monday so that is where I am taking her.
Wow Par, what a mess your wife has created for herself. Definitely make her to detox and rehab, and also perhaps some therapy to help get her head straightened out.
Best of luck for the both of you.
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Get your W into rehab ASAP while the ball is still in your court. It's make it or break it time. Since she has shown that she might be a danger to herself, you should have no problem admitting her.
Continue to heal yourself and stop enabling her bahavior. Draw the line in the sand.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Par, just an FYI....this 'rescuing' business rarely works in a relationship. I have several friends who are all about rescuing women and just end up hurt. So be careful.
Formerly SGfan M:38 W:33 M:8 yrs T:10 yrs Bomb: Dec '08 Separated: 4/18/09 Divorce: 8/28/09 XW Affair began: April 08
I can see you love her very much and care about her well being. it's obvious she is sick just as if she had cancer. her od is a cry for help. i don't agree with it but can certainly understand how much pain she is in to reach such a place to try to take her life.
you are in for a very long road in which you can not should not expect anything. both your mental stabilities are being call into check. that is your priority. when she goes to rehab they will have tools for you to cope with, advice, and all that good stuff.
i think your sitch is taking a slightly different approach at this time.
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline
Thank all of you for your thoughts. She is in rehab right now but it is outpatient, I can't get her into one where you stay all the time yet. I went with her to an AA meeting last night. I still have hope that she telling me the truth. She says she wants to get better, that she doesn't want a life with pills. I am watching myself. I have started eating and trying to take care of me. Trust is still an issue with me. We went to a counseler Tuesday, I don't know why, I just told her I would go with her. It seemed to really help me understand some of the problems that she thought we had that I didn't even know about. Nothing big just small stuff. Well, her drug problem is the first and most important thing to get fixed. I am not even thinking about the R and I won't even talk to her about restoring it until she is well. I am not being mean about it I just tell she needs to get well and then we can talk about it.
