Planning ahead: if H does end up refusing to go, I am going with the script for a page or so back about his refusal being neglect and the demise of M.... and will ask him to leave at that point.
I need to prepare for the fact that he may be in the 25% that still does not want to work through things after this marriage weekend. BOY, that will be some drive home! Ugh. I hate to think that way but need to mentally prepare for all possibilities. If he is not committed to working on M, giving up his secretive behavior and discussing M issues with FT only (or a friend of the marriage) then I am still asking him to leave.
D18 and S16 are both aware of this and supportive.
