Quote: in other words if I don't want to live up to some standard I hold in my mind of what h might think a w should be, then why should I have some standard in my mind as far as what h should be?
sorry, still gonna pick your brain here
what if we truly became the women that our husbands thought they wanted, would they in turn become the men we want? is that possible?
or would we go back to the old resentment cycle because they cannot change, or will not change?
because i didn't have a father ll, i know in my heart i don't want my daughter to not have a father, and i also know that i don't want her to have a step father. so knowing this as strongly as i do, is it worth it to me to become the kind of wife that he wants, and can i do it without resentment
i don't remember who it was on this board recently but they had said something about making oj every time, it was one of their husband's pet peeves, that the oj pitcher wasn't always filled. she always resented the fact that she had to make it, but then she realized it was an act of love to do it, and it changed her whole perspective (or something like that)
maybe i need to incorporate a few more things like that in my marriage, and then maybe, hey, this might work eh?
