i see definitely. i see that both of us were brought up with less then good examples of what family life is supposed to be, and unfortunately we married men with different viewpoints then us
so the question is ll, what do we do about it? knowing that we cannot control what our spouses do and knowing that we cannot change them, what is left? either we go out and find that perfect person (oh yeah, like that exists) and leave our unhappiness behind, or we change ourselves
what is the lesser of the two evils?
damn this is hard aint it?
kitti
well I suppose we can just do our best to be our best and let our h's be who and what they are..and hope that someday they realize some things just as we have and hope they don't beat themselves up too much when/if that happens.
in other words if I don't want to live up to some standard I hold in my mind of what h might think a w should be, then why should I have some standard in my mind as far as what h should be?
what troubles me most though is when h takes time for himself and doesn't always take time for the kids...I mean just becuase your tired doesn't mean you are exempt from your daddy duties...if the kids wanna play you play damn it! oh yeah I guess that's just the way I see it...so then back to if the kids want to play mommy will play and hope that the kids don't grow up and think daddy's just an old poop! or that daddy finnally does figure out that part of the reason son doesn't listen to him is becuase he doesn't listen to son!
