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If it were me, I'd use my one allotted break to go home and install the best damned intel system I could afford.

And then I'd fight for my family.

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She gets back home from her trip tomorrow. I am expecting to at least find some more info out then hopefully. If I don't hear from her, how long should I keep the contact closed off? I really miss talking to my son, and am not sure how long I can go. I know that I have to at least wait for her to get back, but what then. What do I say, do I just act like nothing happened? This is all so confusing. I know once i read it will be clearer, but I don't want to screw things up in the mean time. I want to to this right. I want to do some soul searching on my end and find out what is going on in her head!


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Originally Posted By: Puppy Dog Tails
If it were me, I'd use my one allotted break to go home and install the best damned intel system I could afford.

And then I'd fight for my family.

Puppy


Like what? I'm not exactly sure what you are talking about. I have a Doberman if that counts?


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A good keylogger on her computer, for starters. eBlaster.

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I can't say what her motivations were.

She may have just tried to be supportive, since this job was important to you. She may have looked at it as a break from another needy person in her life when she only had so much to give.

Don't beg or plead, but if you're truly sorry about leaving her when she needed you, you should tell her.

I don't know if it will help at this point, since you have another 10 months left on your assignment, but it may at least show her that you get that you were being selfish and are remorseful.

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Originally Posted By: eeyore_no_more
I can't say what her motivations were.

She may have just tried to be supportive, since this job was important to you. She may have looked at it as a break from another needy person in her life when she only had so much to give.

Don't beg or plead, but if you're truly sorry about leaving her when she needed you, you should tell her.

I don't know if it will help at this point, since you have another 10 months left on your assignment, but it may at least show her that you get that you were being selfish and are remorseful.


IF you do this, I would ONLY do this verbally . Do NOT put anything like this in writing.

It is highly likely that your wife has already at least met with an atty for a consultation. The less in writing admitting any culpability, the better.

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Thanks for the advice guys. I guess i am in a holding pattern for the next couple of days. I don't know what else to do....


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God this is killing me. I just resurected my facebook account just so i could check in on the wife. How pathetic is this? My days are crawling and I don't even know what to do. I want to go back home, but if she is leaving me, i am going to need this money more than ever. [censored] i hate this......


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Hang in there G8

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i am trying, but after talking to my mom, i think i need to think about coming right now. What do you guys think? At least i will be able to figure out what is going one. there isn't that much differnce in coming home in four months or six, right? I just want my wife and kids back, no matter what. I am goiong to talk to my b0ss tomo0rrow about taking a week off without pay. That would help me out the most.
Wish me luck!!!!


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