It looks like things between your H are “cordial” and that he is making every attempt at being a good dad. So to answer your question…yes…I think you should sit down with him and try and come up with a schedule that works for both of you.
I think the overnights are VERY important for both your D and HIM. Being a father is more than just taking them out on the weekends. It also mean, cleaning up poop, wiping runny noses, waking up in the middle of the night to coddle or just give out meds, etc. So the overnights are really important IMO.
The time that he has your D should be YOUR time. It should be time for you to really do things that you want to do for you.
I do question if you are emotionally strong enough to have the conversation right now, but if YOU feel you can then by all means go for it.
Just remember, when you have the convo…no R talk NONE. As much as you may want to pry – don’t. Just keep it light.
Good luck on the job search. Keep your head up…your doing really well Lala…really well.
Finally, I do have a few more questions for you…
1) Are YOU comfortable that he manages all of the finances? How long as this been going on? 2) What are you really doing for yourself these days? How do you keep your days filled? 3) Has mentioned any legal action? 4) You mention the credit card balances. You do understand that legally you are responsible for ½ the debt so you may want to find a way to figure out if he is getting himself in debt. 5) As a single women, how do you envision YOUR life?
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
