Just to clarify - H wanted me to go back to work full-time before all this nonsense started and the bomb was dropped. This isn't a recent thing connected to his wayward-ness. However, it was before I decided to go back to school.
Didn't want it to sound like H threw in the job thing as part of all this. Even he agreed finishing my degree was better, even after the bomb.
My confusion was in receiving advice (FT and previously on boards) that I SHOULD go to work full-time: help alleviate financial stress to H (according to FT but she didn't say that definitely, just a thought) and part of the Tough Love plan from others on forum - to indicate letting go and being self-sufficient. I can see that point. BUT... school is still better overall that a $10-12 an hour job. However, medical benefits would be a definite burden off my mind. I would still have to do everything else the way H is being right now though and that's a huge burden for me.
I don't understand about the fantasy and me being OW though, lol.
