I look at the women in h's family (well not all of them but most) and all I see are subserviant slaves who think their men are just ignorant work horses sure they love them but doesn't seem like they think much of them...feed them...clean their house and let them watch their sports and you'll be taken care of financially? wtf kind of m is that? am I missing something? or am I just seeing it wrong?
in my family...sure the women are domestic..they cook and clean and care for children but a lot more is shared...financial responsibilty is shared, child care is shared, the house and up keep of it (though ok most still falls on the woman) is shared, they are friends and laugh and have fun together..not the men in one room and the women in the other?
maybe I just married into the wrong ethnicity? I don't want to treat my h like an ignorant dufus just worthy of paying the bills and being the big bad diciplinarian to the kids...I know h can be and when he pushes himself to do it is an awesome daddy and is happier with himself when he puts in that effort.
see h's family is all about show...look right, clean your house till it's almost sterile...home cook everything...keep up the apperance...send daughters to dance class and sons to play sports...a little boy playing with a doll?? eee gats? a little girl playing with a power ranger? better make sure it's a pink one. don't use your left hand...aaaarrrrggggg! what freakin time warp are you stuck in???
any way....h is and is not like his family...that is what is so difficult for me. at times he is that stale stuffy pretentous poop that I hate...but other times the lights are on and wow he can amaze me.
I guess I spent to much time before our wedding letting the future in-laws fill my head with how I was suppose to be..cooking in the kitchen all the time etc...now don't get me wrong I love to cook and take care of my house...but don't tell me I have to. and h doesn't he'd be happy with pizza every night of the week.
ok now I'm just ranting but I think you can get an idea of where I might be going?
