My husband does not really understand why I am more affectionate in public and not so much in private. I've tried to explain, but he has difficulty seeing it from my point of view. I would like to note that I do see how unfair it is to him and I try not to deny him, but going through the motions is not helping either one of us beyond a temporary relief in the pressure.
I don't know about other ld partners, but I never desired a sexless relationship, I understand that it is an integral aspect of marriage but in my own situation I feel like my husband pushed me away from him with his strong need and a very self centered view of how a relationship should be.
I really appreciate this forum and the willingness of the participants to share their feelings and experiences. It is because of this sharing that I have been able to feel compassion towards my husband. I think I have a long way to go in breaking down the wall of resentment, anger, and hurt that I've built up, but I would have to say that compassion is a great first step.
