I'm back and looking for insight

[kat727]

Document that he took you off of all the accounts. Make a notation regarding what you were able to do on these accounts before. Document that he took your S to see the L with him...really a child has no place there. Date everything as well and also what percipated the behavior.

Make note of your living conditions and take photos too. I can't remember if he makes good money or not and if you have money problems or not. The kitchen should be useable especially when you already have the new appliances. I think is control of this situation is a form of abuse.

I know you aren't sure if you want a divorce, but gathering this stuff plus financials is part of the process if it happens. You need to establish prior behaviors in case he starts being Mr. Nice and fixing things etc. It is difficult to keep emotions out of it, but try.

I am sorry but I liked you throwing away the shoes! lol

kat